I have never had a relationship based on feeling alone.
There is something more to it. There is an element of stubbornness. There is a deep connectedness that holds on when the feelings don’t match the situation.
There is also a putting the interest of others above your own. (Certainly, not all of the time, but I would say equal parts or a little more.) There is an interest in the person. There is an interest in his or her story. There is an interest in the things that he or she knows about.
There is an expertise that one gets about that person. Of course, knowledge alone does not determine my relationship with him or her, but I cannot know nothing of him or her either.
I am in love with WK… in the giddy school girl way. I am in love with him in the melt your insides and rip your clothes off way. I am in love with him in the get all dressed up to look my best for him on special nights kind of way. I am in love with him in the hold hands in public and sit on the same side of the table kind of way.
But that’s not it. If it was, it would be shallow. If it was, it would be tiring to keep up. If it was, I would question my love for him when I got a headache or was distracted with a challenge.
I am also in love with him in the grow old with him kind of way. I am in love with him in the do laundry, do dishes, and bear children for him kind of way. I am love with him in the I will pay attention (more than hearing or listening) to stories about cars and computers kind of way. I am in love with him in the making his life my life kind of way.
It’s both. It’s a marriage of both the feeling of love and the constitution of it.
Sometimes I feel the feelings. Sometimes I do the work of them.
A deep abiding love will both make your heart soar and your muscles ache. It will make you feel amazing and it will wear you out. It is both an emotion and an institution.
Culturally we like to apply the shallow kind of love to God as well as people. But it’s both…
I am in love with my Savior… In a giddy school girl kind of way, and a lay down my life for Him kind of way. I am in love in the heart soaring, and the read Leviticus kind of way. I am in love in a follow him when things look nice and when things look awful kind of way. I am in love with Him in a sing hallelujah, and in a memorize His word kind of way.
It’s both. It’s a marriage of both the relationship and the regulations.
If I would give this kind of love to my husband why would I give anything less to my Lord?
I hope that we learn a deeper love each day… one that causes us to cheer and to sacrifice.
It’s the only kind of love worth having.