We’re floundering most of us. The mamas raising our young ones. We’re terrified of getting it wrong. We’re helpless to get it right. We don’t even know who to go to when we have questions.
I used to have a wise sounding board. She was full of life, but she was also filled with God’s word.
Mama was the perfect place for me to take my questions, ideas, and fears to. She almost always had the perfect answer, even when it was “I don’t know.”
Having her was a treasure, and I soaked up her wisdom like a sponge.
But when I no longer had Marilyn I realized that others around me didn’t have anyone like her either.
So we all floundered together. Until one day God laid it on my heart to be a sounding board for others around me.
If I didn’t have my Mama and they didn’t have that sound counsel either, why couldn’t we be that to each other?
So we gather at my dining room table each week to sort out the good, the bad, and the poopy.
I keep asking why we are so weak in this area and what we can do about it.
We find this wisdom in organic conversation and real life. We pray that God uses it to breathe life back into our weary souls.
But finding it?
That’s the big problem. We have no idea where to look for it.
Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
This is not an excuse to sit around with people who are exactly like you on the surface. This is a call to find others who are like you at the core.
The girls that meet at my dining room table started when the Jesus in Marj and the Jesus in me sharpened each other.
It grew even stronger when a different surface but an iron core joined us. Jill wasn’t the same, but she was a sharpener.
Why are we not finding these healthy places?
If we’re honest it is because much of what we find on social media can be fluff, or let’s just say it, poop. Neither of these elements sharpen, nor do they create a protective and steadfast place for us to become better than we were yesterday.
Iron is most often found face to face. It is why we still mostly find it in churches, in school pick-up lines, and in the break room. It is also why we feel more lonely when we don’t find it in these spaces than when we don’t find it online.
Proverbs 2:3-5 also tells us that it will not fall into our laps, “If you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.” While this is talking about the fear of the Lord and the knowledge of God, I believe those are often found in the small conversations with iron relationships.
The physical element of iron itself is mined for. Rarely is iron found on the surface and if so it is only a trace of all that is hiding below the surface.
I have iron ladies. They are soft on the outside, but the are tough as nails inside. They sharpen me in ways I would never
May we quit looking for iron on the surface, and dig deeper to find the iron that our souls long to be strengthened by. I pray you quit looking for strength in fluff, ignore surface minerals, and search for what will make you stronger, friends.
It is there, but it must be mined.